Tips for Women in The Workplace

Women In The WorkplaceEveryone knows that the business world has been and still is mostly male dominated and driven. Unfortunately, women make on average 79 cents for ever dollar a man makes. At all of my previous places of work, there were more male employees in positions of power and more men on staff all together. Heck, even in the dance world men are paid more and treated better than their female counter parts.

As a young professional, I find that my age and gender can be a huge hinderance in career opportunities….if I choose to let them be a hinderance. I have found that as a female in a male dominated workplace I have to learn to adapt, be observant, and always stay on my toes. I have also found a few tips along the way that have helped me earn more respect in the workplace from my male coworkers.

Here are my best tips for women in the workplace.

Always Look Professional

Although men can be considered professional in an ugly collared shirt, cheap dark wash jeans, and sneakers, women do not have this luxury. I have found that the way you dress greatly effects first impressions and can alter how the foundation of any relationship. Take the extra time to always look presentable and you will set an expectation for garnering respect from men and women in the workplace.

Never Tell Your Age

So you have a uterus and your in your early twenties….the first is a given but the latter can be kept a secret. Don’t discuss your age with coworkers, bosses, and clients because honestly it’s none of their business. Neither your sex or your age has anything to do with your ability to perform in the workplace.

Don’t Be Affected By Rude Remarks

Many women lose out on opportunities, raises, and respect in the workplace because they do not want to be seen as a b*tch. Unfortunately if a man is outspoken, passionate, and headstrong they are seen as an excellent employee but a woman is seen as a terror. Don’t let small-mindedness ruin your career. If you are called names because you are excellent at your job and don’t take no for an answer, you can laugh yourself to the bank and let those comments roll right off of you.

Be Graceful

Natural born leaders who happen to be born women are bound to ruffle feathers at some point. As long as you do so with grace and kindness no one will have a bad word to say about you. Don’t gossip, don’t put others down, and don’t bring up gender inequalities to justify any actions.

Don’t Get Emotional

If you are an emotional woman like myself, it is easy to get hysterical when you put a lot of time and energy into a project and it doesn’t go as planned. Don’t let your emotions lead you to actions you will regret and words you can never take back. Take a deep breath and get out of the office for a quick coffee break. Crying or yelling is never a good idea in the workplace and can make you seem irrational even if you are the most level headed woman on the planet.
I hope women in the workplace can be seen as equals one day. I am thankful to the women in my life who have helped me in my career path and shown what it is like to be a fearless business woman. Be the change you wish to see in the workplace.

If Bloggers Wrote About Giving Not Buying

Tonight I made dinner for three homeless boys under the age of five, an eleven year old girl named Ariella, and their fathers.I wrote each of their names on a pumpkin to do something unique for them at the table. I sat across from Ariella and talked to her until she felt comfortable enough to ask for seconds of the baked penne I had made. I could tell she was hungry and that this wasn’t her first time eating with strangers. After talking about school and how she plays violin in orchestra, she told me that she had been in foster care for four years until her dad was able to get her out. She also mentioned that her old foster care parents were in prison for suffocating her two year old sister and other foster children. As she said it I immediately felt my heart break for this little girl. All I could think about was taking her home with me to protect her from anything that could ever cause her harm.

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I am writing this blog not to make myself look good or raise myself up, but to bring awareness to the lack of giving in our culture. What if bloggers wrote about how much they GAVE instead of what they BOUGHT for themselves. What if fashion bloggers told you about outfits they gave to the homeless instead of outfits they bought for their Instagram photos. Or if food bloggers wrote about recipes that fed the hungry instead of just the camera. Tonight I was reminded how sweet it is to be able to provide someone a warm meal or even just an ear to listen. Hearing Ariella’s story reinvigorated my desire to serve others and to spread the word.

If you’ve gotten to the last paragraph of this post, I challenge you to give and to share it on social media. What if we could inspire others to give by giving, just like we inspire others to shop when we show off a new outfit. Please share this post and if you are a blogger like me, I urge your to write a post about giving, not buying at least once and see how it turns out. If you aren’t a blogger, you still have a Facebook or Twitter account that can reach all of your friends and make a difference. Let’s see what we can do.

Intro to Adulting

Adulting
verb 1.
doing adult things; becoming an adult
“Wow, I got a full time job and a savings account. I am adulting so hard right now”

life after collegeLife after college is weird. Any grad will tell you they leave college feeling unprepared for life in a full time 12 month cycle. Goodbye summer break, goodbye student discounts, and hello adulting. It would be great if college did a better job at preparing you for life after graduation but I guess that is part of the process; figuring out what to do next, where to live, and what you want in life.

After graduation I immediately started a new full time job at a marketing agency. I was thrown into the 9-5 lifestyle at an online agency, got married, and bought a house two months after. I made a swift change from college student to adult with the guidance of my husband and parents. If you are a senior in college, just graduated, or in the limbo between college student and grad, I highly recommend preparing for adulthood with the following steps.

Intro to Adulting

Make a 5 Year Plan

So you’ve spent the last 4 years of your life deciding your major, trying new things, and finding out who you want to be. Well now is the time to put your next steps on paper for the following 5 years after college. Sure the plans may change but having some sort of game plan will give you more ambition to be more and do more than if you live your adult life on a whim.

Start Dating Winners

Date a WinnerYou dated the hipster, kissed a jock, had a thing with that guy in a rock band, now it is time to get your sh*t together. You are in a crucial time in your life where the people you date greatly affect your future. Date someone who has a job, is going places, and inspires you to do the same. Marriage isn’t too far off and honestly why waste time dating someone who you couldn’t imagine marrying someday.

Create a Budget

Money management is one of the hardest things to learn after college. You don’t get any more student loan money, your parents don’t wanna give you any money after your graduation party, and you probably only have a part time job. Start setting a budget with your current income and set yourself up for financial success. If you don’t have an income, it’s time to start job hunting!

Learn to Cook

Homemade Christmas BreakfastKnowing how to sauté an onion, grill a chicken breast, and cook a complete meal without anything from a box is crucial. Learning how to cook will save you money, improve your diet, and help you become a stable healthy adult who doesn’t eat out at a restaurant for every meal. Cereal and ramen may have gotten you through some tough times in college, but you shouldn’t eat that way for your entire adult life.

Clean Up Your Social Media Profiles

College is full of late nights, fun memories, and nowadays there are lots of photos of those memories all over Facebook. Now is the time to go through your Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and LinkedIn to make sure you are showing yourself as a responsible adult (even if you aren’t). Get rid of any photos you wouldn’t want a future employer to see, and make sure your online presence is presentable.

Make Saving a Priority

Paying for Wedding DressYou may not have a steady income or a full time job, but starting the habit of saving some part of your paycheck makes you a more financially stable person. When payday comes, put aside a small amount of money immediately before you spend it all. You will need your savings for important things in life, like wedding dresses duh.

Build Credit & Eliminate Debt

If you have graduated college without a credit card, shame on you. You really need to start building your credit so you can buy a car or house someday. If you have graduated college with a large amount of credit card debt, shame on you too. Start building your credit, paying off debt, and being responsible with your credit cards.

Work Out Regularly

work out regularlyEven if you did not work out or do some physical activity in college, it’s time to start. Commit to at least one hour of exercise, three days a week. If you don’t work out now, you never will. If you never workout, you will likely be overweight, unhappy, and end up with some sort of obesity related disease. The freshman 15 excuse doesn’t work anymore.

Adulting may be one of the most difficult times in your life, but it is also the foundation for you as a person. I hope you’ve found these tips helpful and if you have any other to add, please share in a comment below!

Things To Do In Kauai -Honeymoon Style

If you haven’t been to Kauai, what are you waiting for? You don’t even need your passport to visit one of the most beautiful vacation spots in the entire world! For those engaged or the soon-to-be newly weds, I highly recommend spending your honeymoon on this beautiful, romantic and secluded island.

Kyle and I were lucky enough to spend one week in Kauai at the Kauai Coast Resort at the Beachboy. It is a beautiful timeshare property that is quiet, conveniently located, and comes with a full kitchen, which is quite useful if you are looking to save a little money in Kauai.
Beach Boy KauaiHoneymoon In Kauai

Kauai is full of adventure, endless beautiful beaches and lots of little fun bikini shops. Here is my list of things to do in Kauai, honeymoon style.

Things to Do In Kauai Honeymoon Style

Enjoy Kauai’s Many Beaches

Poipu

Kauai's Best BeachesSnorkeling at Poipu Beach

Ke’e Beach

Ke'e Beach Kauai

Kealia Beach

Kealia Beach
Kauai is THE place if you are looking to lay on beautiful beaches with warm inviting water and tons of sunshine. If you are looking for beaches that you can swim in, my favorites were Poipu Beach and Ke’e Beach. They were quiet and the waters had soft gentle waves that crashed along the shore. Kealia Beach was beautiful and had only a few people in sight but the waves were much bigger if you are looking for more action in the water to surf or body surf.

Fly High on a Helicopter Tour

Kauai Helicopter Tour
The helicopter tour took us over the entire island of Kauai and was most definitely our favorite part of the trip. As you would expect, it was also the most expensive part, but if you sit through a timeshare presentation you can get a 2-for-1 deal! We went with Sunshine Helicopter Tours and had a wonderful time. Make sure you request the front seat next to the pilot or you will only have views outside one side window. Here is just a glimpse of the breathtaking views over the Napali Coast.
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Get Dirty on an ATV Ride

Kipu Ranch ATV
Our ATV ride at Kipu Ranch was incredible! A full day of fun in the mud, swinging from the rope swing that was used in Indiana Jones, and four wheeling through the area Jurassic Park was filmed in.
Kipu Ranch ATV
Kipu Ranch ATV
We loved our time at Kipu Ranch and it was totally worth the money! Make sure you get your own ATV, bring serious bug spray, lots of sunscreen, and be ready to ruin whatever clothes you wear from the red Kauai dirt.

Hike the Mountains

Kalalau Trail
Kauai is full of breathtaking hiking trails all over the island. If I would have known we were going hiking as much as we did I would have bought hiking shoes, BUG SPRAY, and a waterproof case for my phone.
Kalalu Trail

River on the Kalalu Trail
This is the most beautiful trail in the entire world! We only hiked 2 miles in to get to Hanakapaei Beach but it was the most memorable part of our trip.
Hanakapaei Beach
This excursion took about 5 hours due to the muddy trail, so I recommend if you want to do the full trail pick the driest day in the forecast and go early. The most enjoyable part for me was swimming in Ke’e bay and washing off all the dirt in the clear warm water. Truly incredible sights on this hike but make sure you slather on the bug spray, I got over 20 bug bites on just my legs alone.
Floating in Kauai

Shop In Hanalei Bay

Kauai Juice Co
Hanalei is my bae…but really I love this place. The town of Hanalei is absolutely adorable and so quaint. They have tons of fun restaurants, shops and local stores to peruse through. Stop in at Kauai Juice Co. for a freshly pressed tropical juice and enjoy the fruits of kauai; better than any beverage you will find on the island or the mainland!

Drive to Waimea Canyon

Waimea CanyonDrive up the winding road to the very top of Waimea Canyon to enjoy the beautiful “Grand Canyon” of Kauai. This is a quick trip up and once you are at the lookout, there isn’t much to do other than buy fresh fruit. So snap a few photos and enjoy the views of Waimea Canyon.

Explore the Napali Coast

Napali Coast Tour
The Napali Coast is unlike ANYTHING I have ever seen before. You feel like you are being transported to a scene from Pirates of the Caribbean because it is so secluded and untouched (fun fact: Pirates of the Caribbean 3 actually did film there). We went on the ocean raft tour which was very extreme, not relaxing at all but totally worth it. Just make sure you slather on the sunscreen before you get on the navy seal boat because you will be wet ALL day. I highly recommend Kauai Sea Tours because they are one of the few companies allowed to take you to the holy grounds and visit the Hawaiian temple ruins. Bring sunglasses, sunscreen, and a good attitude because you have to hang on to the raft for dear life for about an hour each way while being sprayed in the face with water. But the highlight of going early in the morning was seeing numerous sea turtles and sooo many spinner dolphins.

Kayak The Wailua River

Kauai RiverWater Fall HikeKayaking the Wailua River was a really fun filled day of rowing, exploring, and singing with our tour guide form Rainbow Kayak Tours. Make sure you are ready to get an arm workout, hike into more bug infested areas, and see beautiful waterfalls! We brought our lunch and had a little picnic with the wild chickens by the falls. The falls were pretty small in this photo because we didn’t get much rain on our trip!

Have a Romantic Sunset Dinner in Princeville

Princeville SunsetSt Regis KauaiSunset in PrincevillePrinceville is one of the most posh areas of Kauai. The St. Regis resort is THE nicest hotel I have ever had the pleasure of staying at. It is way better than the Grand Waillea that everyone raves about in Maui. If we had an endless honeymoon budget, I would have booked our entire stay at the St. Regis. Our beach view was priceless, the restaurant overlooking the sunset was incredible, and the everything about this place was luxury.
Someday Kyle and I will return to Kauai and enjoy the island once again. Please feel free to share anything other fun things to do in Kauai so we can add to our list for next time. Aloha!

Creative Halloween Costumes From 2015

0001-68647950Hooray it’s October! Halloween is one of my favorite holidays! I love getting creative with costumes and eating way to much “bite sized” candy. Every year I try to come up with costumes that are unique and relevant to the times. Even though if I’m being honest, sometimes I just pick the cutest girl costume and then try to find something for my husband to wear last minute.

If you are in need of some creative halloween costumes from 2015, here is some inspiration and better yet links so you can buy it all online!

Owen & Claire from Jurassic World

Owen & Claire Costume Jurassic World

Jurassic World was a hug hit in the box office this year, so why not play the main characters?! For the ladies I have found all of the pieces for you, but as for Owen’s costume, you will save money just buying the premade costume because brown utility vests are so pricey!

Get Claire’s Look:

Short red haired wig
White chiffon button down blouse
Light lavender tank top
White mid length skirt
Nude heels
T-rex stuffed animal

Get Owen’s Outfit:

Jurassic Park Costume

Disgust & Fear from Inside Out

Disgust & Fear Costume

Even though only the parent & kids will know who you are at a party, you will look adorable. Take a note from these Disney characters and go all out in green and red.

Get Disgust’s Look:

Green dress
Green wig
Purple scarf

Get Anger’s Look:

White shirt
Red tie
Brown pants
Make sure to cut out some red felt eyebrows or spray paint your hair red to really give the flaming hair some gusto.

Catastrophe & Arsyn from Taylor Swift’s Bad Blood Music Video

Arsyn Bad Blood CostumeCatastrophe Costume

This is an easy one, buy anything leather, latex and black and you pretty much have a badass #girlboss costume. Lay on the smokey eye makeup and match your hair to any one of their many looks in the video! You can even buy the real costumes they actually wore, but be warned Arysn’s Garbo Blouse alone will run you $360!

Get Arysn’s Opening Scene look:

Arsyn Wig
Black Bowtie Blouse
Black Skirt
Black tights
Pointy Black Pumps
I’d recommend spray painting a briefcase silver and bringing a black powder compact as your weapon of choice.

Get Catastrophe’s Final Scene Look:

Red Catastrophe Wig
Black Leather Bra
Gold triangle earrings
Black leather shorts
Black Knee High Boots
Black Leather Half Gloves
Silver Accent Belt
Gun Holster
Don’t forget Taylor’s packin’, so spray paint a few water guns black to really sell the kickass outfit that is Catastrohpe.

Donald Trump & Hilary Clinton

Donald Trump & Hilary Clinton Costume

Election season is coming up and all the buzz about these two makes them perfect candidates for this year’s Halloween costume. Feel free to be a complete jerk at any party you attend because when you have a Donald Trump wig on, everyone will know you’re in character. Grab your best suit, tie, dress shoes and this Cheap Donald Trump Wig  and you’re ready!

As for Hilary, think school teacher, meets first lady, meets old lady.

Get Hilary’s Look:

Two piece suit
Comfortable high heels
Fake reading glasses,
And of course don’t forget plenty of gaudy gold jewelry to really beat the polls at the Halloween contest.

I hope you have a fun & safe Halloween this year! Please share any creative costumes you come up with and any photos of what you wear!

*This blog post contains affiliate links, simply because almost everything is from Amazon and I wanted to utilize my Amazon Prime membership 🙂 Halloween shopping can be expensive when you buy those terrible bagged costumes. Its much easier to make these creative halloween costumes on your own with a little help of the internet.

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